What is true love…
What is real love? What is love? When is it love?
In Greek there are 5 words of love
On of them is
agapeo – the spiritual kind love, the unconditional one that expects no return. Agape love is entirely about the lover, and has nothing whatsoever to do with the one loved. Agape love, in its purest form, requires no payment or favor in response. This kind of love is about a commitment to the very best for another, no matter what emotions or feelings exist!
Eros the passionate often sexual love. sensual desire and longing love. Eros is obviously the root word for “erotic,” but it does not describe sexual love only, it actually describes all emotional love; the feeling of love. Eros love is that insatiable desire to be near the target of this love. The exciting, passionate, nervous feelings that sweep over people in the appropriate circumstances. This is the love that says “I love how you make me feel.” As an emotion, Eros changes, sometimes suddenly.
then there is
Philos love, or brotherly/friendship love. the mental love that is affectionate regard or friendship. Philos describes the love between two people who have common interests and experiences, or a fondness for. this is a give and take love. the love we often have for friends, family and community. Unlike Eros, which pulses up and down like waves on the ocean, Philos steadily grows, like a building being constructed stone by stone. For this reason, when close friends are separated for a while and reunited, they will often say “it is like we picked up exactly where we left off.”
And last but least the
Storgy the affection is the love one has for a dependent. It is commonly called “motherly love.” It is entirely based on the relationship between the “lover” and the “lovee.” When the dependent is no longer dependent, this love remains only in its emotional remnants. It is one of the stronger loves, because it involves a commitment that relies on only one trait of the receiver – that he or she is dependent.
Because in many modern languages only one world is used “love” becomes very relative…
How many parts of LOVE we want to combine in a relationship must be our very own decision. In my own opinion it would need at least a few – also to make sure it can endure if one part is missing in some situations or phases.
Healthy love combines a combination of some of them in one big love.
he Power of Love
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is love their mother”. (Theodore Hesburgh, American Priest)
I remember when I was a kid, I was excessively sensitive when my parents weren’t getting along. My immediate instinct was to reconcile them with each other, because only then I could feel secure again. I didn’t want their love to flow to me through two separate channels, that wasn’t good enough. It felt cheap and insufficient in comparison with what they could give me together – that complete and satisfying love which comes with an important message, “Look! Just like we love each other, we love you, just like we respect and forgive each other, we are going to respect and forgive you, just like we aren’t going to leave each other no matter what, we will never leave or betray you. We trust each other, and you can fully trust us”.
I believe my parents’ love for each other made me a better person. It made us best friends. I knew I could be open with them, because they were open with each other, and it wasn’t hurtful. Simply loving each other, they taught me more about life than any words could do.
My heart aches when I see parents who try their best to show love for their kids, and yet neglect their spouse. In fact, the very best thing parents can do for their children is value and cherish their own relationship above all others.
I hope this encourages you to at least give your spouse a hug and a warm smile today or think of something else that needs to be done to nourish your love for one another.
Compliments and Appreciation
When is the last time you showed your partner that you appreciat him? told him what you like about him? Given him a wink, that you saw what he did, cleaned up or did for you and the kids?
Love does not come free and it even less lasts for free!
How are your stocks? Are you up do date? Are you investing enough?
Nothing is for you know.. falling in love is easy but only
Respect, Compromise and Understanding are going to keep it alive.
Your kids need you to be a good team. If you are split they still need you to be a good Parenting team maintaining a certain amount of respect and if you are alone raising your kids than the need you to show them that you also build up a Team around them to raise them well, and are respectful to this team.
Life is not about solo dancing it is about teamwork.
Compliments and appreciation are the fuel to this game!
Now go and fuel up! Please in your sake 😉
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